Saturday, September 25, 2010
3 in a row!! Can I keep this up?
I know that most of her issues are because of us. When she was born we couldn't hold her much, when we came home she slept in the crib on her own, we put her in awake, but there was a machine attached to her. She would go to sleep with very little crying. It took a while for her to find her voice.
Then the tube came out of her tummy and we were so excited!! She could sleep in our bed now...it took 7 months before she could do that. This is when we should have continued what we had been doing already and continuing to put her in her crib at bedtime and let her go to sleep...
that is what we started doing. We don't have much issue with the whole idea of co-sleeping. 2 of our older kids slept in bed with us for the first year, and they finally ended up in their own beds with no issues.
That was the plan with Faith. I say that WAS the plan with Faith because she is almost 3 and we are really struggling to get her to sleep in her own bed. It wouldn't be so bad if she wasn't so driven by her sensory need to feel flesh on flesh...imagine waking up to a foot up your shirt, and not just sitting there...she leaves bruises!!
That first night it was just over 1.5 hours. She didn't sleep through the whole night and ended up with us at some point (probably after 4am...which seems to be her waking time).
Tuesday, same thing. Up into her bed, and left to cry. This time there was a lot of ruckus going on (love that word:-) She was extremely upset and we don't know what she was doing up there. But, about 1.5 hours went by and she was finally asleep. Again, not for the whole night, just a portion...and then back with us again.
Same thing on Thursday night, she had a traumatic day and the heart won out again, she snuggled until she went to sleep.
I know, it is not a good thing to start something and then let the inconsistency kick in...we probably totally confused her, but we got back to it last night.
Friday night, I sat outside her door while she cried. I went in at the right times to check on her and she was just so mad. She again, was throwing stuff around and crying at the door. It really is hard to sit there and listen to her crying like that, but this is what they suggested...
This time it was only an hour and she was asleep, curled up in a nice little ball, on her sisters bed (who went to bed in another room).
Another one was positive routines. This one says you wait until the child is showing signs of being tired and then you start to positively show them how to relax...problem with this one is...Faith never gets tired!!
And then there was Dr. Sears, I think, who says to pick them up when they are crying and put them down when they are not crying...(pu/pd method) which is basically what we had been doing, and it just is not working.