So called "Nice things to say"

Ok, here is my "thought" post. Read or not...these are just my feelings and you don't have to agree with me.

How far do we go with saying nice things to people when they are going through trials? We really need to stop and think about what we are saying to people.

A baby dies...this is one we heard with Angel "God must have needed another flower in His garden" Tell me, the God who created this earth, and everything in it...has to take a child when He needs another flower? Couldn't he just "plant" another one? He is the master gardener after all...My question with this one is...How could I possibly serve a God and raise my kids knowing that He will take anyone He wants, whenever He wants? Especially when a child hasn't even lived their life...sounds sick to me!!

One we have heard a lot lately...and even from certain leadership (not at our church, however...) "God will only give you what you can handle"...What? So, God made Faith have a lack of oxygen because we could handle the outcome of this? Really, why on earth would I want to serve that kind of a god...who thinks that our family could handle this...we did ok with it, we perservered... but really...again, how horrible does that sound?

Or, another one..."God must have something for you to learn"...I know that through our whole situation with Faith, and even our situation with Angel, we have learned lots...I wouldn't want to change any of those lessons that we have learned...and I wouldn't want to change how much we have grown, but again, why would God harm a child in order to teach us something? Doesn't make any sense to me.

Even the comment "If it is God's will to heal, then you will be healed"...whatever...it says in the Bible that we ARE healed...I don't believe that it is ever Gods will to leave people sick.

How can we tell people how awesome our God is and then turn around and say these things too? Someone who is looking in at our lives would seriously question why we would be ok with this kind of god.

So, what do you say to someone who is going through some kind of trial in their life?

You tell them that it sucks...yup, it is that easy, and you cry with them, and you love them. You be practical in helping them with whatever was needed.

I love our church and the circle of friends that we have. They are real people. They were and still are the ones telling us that it sucks, but they are also the ones who stand by us and even hold me up when I can't see the light anymore.

We can now turn around and show people that Faith is a huge miracle. That through her everyone can see God and what He is capable of. When we tell people that she shouldn't even be here, and that prayer works wonders, it means something.

But, I do believe that we live in a crappy world, bad things happen, and we just have to deal with it. Sometimes we are hit really hard and we need to rely on God for what we believe, and that is how we get through these things. God helps us as we journey along in life and when we hit a trial and we are struggling to see what the end is, as long as we ask, He equips us with whatever we need to get through.

That is the kind of God that I want people to know...

Sundays Verse

I was reminded of this verse in church today. It is a verse that I have stood on many times and I seem to have forgotten more recently about it. So powerful!! We were singing the song, just under the verse and my heart stirred with this verse again...thought I would just share. It was definately something I needed and maybe someone else does as well!!

Hebrews 6:13 When God made his promise to Abraham, since there was no one greater for him to swear by, he swore by himself, 14 saying, "I will surely bless you and give you many descendants."15 And so after waiting patiently, Abraham received what was promised.
16 Men swear by someone greater than themselves, and the oath confirms what is said and puts an end to all argument. 17 Because God wanted to make the unchanging nature of his purpose very clear to the heirs of what was promised, he confirmed it with an oath. 18 God did this so that, by two unchangeable things in which it is impossible for God to lie, we who have fled to take hold of the hope offered to us may be greatly encouraged. 19 We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure. It enters the inner sanctuary behind the curtain, 20a where Jesus, who went before us, has entered on our behalf.

Faithful One
(Brian Doerksen)

Faithful One so unchanging
Ageless One You’re my rock of peace
Lord of all I depend on You
I call out to You, again and again
I call out to You, again and again

You are my rock in times of trouble
You lift me up when I fall down
All through the storm
Your love is the anchor
My hope is in You alone